Effective Communication Behaviors

For your blog this week, think of someone (e.g., family member, celebrity, politician, friend, or professor) who demonstrates competent communication within a particular context. What behaviors does this person exhibit that make him or her effective? Would you want to model some of your own communication behaviors after this person? Why or why not?

The one person who demonstrates competent communication is my father. I selected him outta array of other individuals because I deem him to be the most effective helpful person. Some behaviors that my father exhibits; are great listener, sympathetic, knowledgeable on many subjects, always willing to help, and has great advice.

For example during my first year of college, my father "told" me that when I begin getting my refund checks from my student loans, that I would send them back immediately. Being a first year college student I didn't understand why I had to give this money back right away; in the same manner that I saw all my other friends going across the street to the mall and going shopping. He explained to me, that in the long run when it comes time to having to pay my loans back that I will already have a head start and will not have fell behind. Trying it his way, I then noticed when the statements came, I was actually ahead of my payments. Had I not had my father to guide me in submitting what was right and not being careless, I would have been behind and possibly messed up my credit.

I would like to model some of my own communication behaviors after my father, with listening because some people just need somebody to listen to them and not provide any comments or criticisms. I also would like to be more sympathetic, because even if I can't be successful in helping, I can at least try.

Professional Hopes and Goals

One hope that you have when you think about working with children and families who come from diverse backgrounds (any format and any length)
- One hope that I have when I work with children and their families who come from diverse backgrounds, is to see me as I am. I hope that the family vows to give me a chance and work with me so that I can incorporate their culture into my curriculum. However, they must understand that before I implement their facts into the lessons, I must first learn about them. Learn and research some basic language, beliefs, wants and needs, and also what there goals are for their child.

One goal you would like to set for the early childhood field related to issues of diversity, equity, and social justice (any format and any length)
- One goal I would like to set for the early childhood field that is related to issues of diversity, equity, and social justice, is to provide a diversity training/workshop once a quarter. This would primarily be to learn and implement new information, tips, and activities. I think it is very important to keep up with society, being that there is always new information being updated each day.

A brief note of thanks to your colleagues
-To Ms. Snider and Classmates,

I have enjoyed the past eight weeks, from interacting during discussions, giving feedback on blogs, and from getting helpful tips from the instructor. I have definitely learned from each and every one of you. I also have a new outlook on the topics we discussed, that will make me start looking at certain situations in a new light now. I will take what I have learned and implement it into my classrooms and into my teaching style.

Thanks again, Sherrell

Welcoming Families from Around the World.

My family's country is: Haiti
Five ways I would prepare myself for the family's arrival:
-The first thing I would do is to do a little research on the country the family is coming from. This would give me an insight on how their environment and community looks. I would also find out what language is commonly spoken and find out of the family uses it or not. If they did, I would begin learning some of the basic language enough to communicate greetings, needs, and wants.
-The second thing I would do is gather informational documents and pamphlets on resources around the local community if help was needed. It would provide shelters, welfare, how to get assistance for having a baby (WIC), clothing and or food pantries etc.
-The next preparation I would take is to briefly train my teachers in the class he/she would be entering. I would give them the basic language, some common beliefs that is known to be followed in Haiti with a "just in case" they do follow these certain beliefs. I would also learn about the foods that Haitian people eat, and see if I can get at least one of the meals added to the school lunch menu each month.
-Another preparation I would make is to ask the parents to write down a short survey about the child. Likes/dislikes, habits, eating habits, rituals, beliefs, what makes the child happy/sad or scared.
-Lastly, I would schedule a special meeting with the parents and child and an interpreter(if needed), to go over the school's handbook, policy, and paperwork. I would also allow the parents and child to meet with the teacher to discuss any necessary information that each other both would like to share. This would also be an great opportunity for the child to meet the teacher. I would request that the parents stay a few hours at drop off the first day just to make him/her feel comfortable, and to see how the child interacts with the other children. I would end by telling the family that the doors are always open, and that they may come in or call to check on how the child is doing.


A brief statement describing in what ways you hope that these preparations will benefit both you and the family:
- I hope that by taking these preparations, I would getting a better understanding of the family and they would for me as well. I understand it can be difficult entering into a new environment; but more so, into a new country where everything around is foreign. As long as communication is open between the parents and myself/teachers I think that the family will have a wonderful stay while their child is attending the program.

The Personal side of Bias, Prejudice, and Oppression

What memory do you have of an incident when you experienced bias, prejudice, and/or oppression, or witnessed someone else as the target of bias, prejudice, and/or oppression? Keep in mind that one can encounter such incidents in real contexts, including online environments, as well as in fictional ones, such as movies, books, television shows, and the like

- This past weekend I went to the beach and board walk with some friends for my birthday (My birthday is today-Saturday!!!!) and the people who push the carts up and down the boardwalk carting people from one end to the next gave a group of young Caucasian girls a different price  of a flat rate of 20dollars to the opposite side of the board walk, and told my group of friends the price is $5.00 every three blocks. I asked him why were the girls giving a different rate when clearly the rates are posted inside of the cart! The man was stunned and wasn't aware that I overheard his previous conversation. He then offered us the same "special" as the other girls, and because furious when we denied all together.

In what way(s) did the specific bias, prejudice and/or oppression in that incident diminish equity?

- This situation diminished equity from the simple point that the guy should not be giving deals to certain individuals as if the money he collects goes to him personally. That's his job and he works for a business, the professional side to that is treat each individual the same because at the end of the day, he doesn't know if I work for the company or not and doing a mandatory observation of my employees.

What feelings did this incident bring up for you?

- This brought up prejudice, biased, and also the fact that I am not good enough. I was just so taken back that after it all happened the man still denied the fact he was being unfair. 

What and/or who would have to change in order to turn this incident into an opportunity for greater equity?

- The cart guy would have to do his job properly and charge customers the posted price that is labeled inside of each cart. Even though he may correct his inappropriate behavior, I would still decline and refuse taking any cart anytime I am on the board walk because of one back experience. My feelings are that if the man did it, they all must do it.
 

Practicing Awareness of Microaggressions

According to Dr. Sue, microaggressions are: "everyday verbal, and nonverbal and environmental slights, snubs, or insights, whether intentional or unintentional, which communicate hostile, derogatory, or negative messages to target persons based solely upon their marginalized group membership" (Sue, D. 2011)

Describe at least one example of a microaggression which you detected this week or remember from another time. In what context did the microaggression happen? What did you think and feel when you observed the microaggression or when you found yourself as the target of a microaggression?

- One microaggression that I can recall from another time that had me furious was; being in a department store and having two different scenarios occur. The first one was as soon as you enter a store there's always somebody to recognize you and welcome you to their store. I said hello and thank you. The store person proceeds to ask if there's anything specific I am looking for and can she be of any assistance to me? I again say thank you, but I am just looking. She says, okay if you shall need some help my name is  _______ and I will be happy to assist you. For the third time I say thank you, and walk away. About ten minutes into looking at clothes, I see these two children running in and out of clothes racks, being unruly, and not tended to by a responsible parent or caregiver. The woman (who I assumed was the mother) notices my facial expression and displeasure of the children being annoying. She then desperately and dramatically calls the kids at the top of her lungs and said "oh my gosh" you two children need to stay at my side where I can see you, do you want somebody to kidnap you!" As that situation died down, the same store representative came over and begins straightening up each pile of clothes that I walk next to.

Having felt so beyond disrespected, annoyed, and that my constitutional rights had been violated; I immediately left that store and within the next few days email a letter to the headquarters of my experience. A response was returned apologizing for feeling that I was being stalked and furthermore followed. Having proof that I was a very regular customer, they had just hired new employees and many complaints had been coming in about similar situations. In an effort to assure that never happens again, I was given some coupons (basically to shut me up); but also told that him the CEO himself would look into the situation. Something I doubt, but okay.

From both aspects of the mother thinking I was a kidnapper and the store clerk thinking I was there to steal merchandise; I felt humiliated, annoyed, disrespected, amongst a bunch of other feelings. I still often wonder what would I have had to done differently in body, language, or facial expressions ??? I also felt that something other than shelling out some coupons which is very easy to do and have somebody shut up for a few dollars of discount, should have been done. Even though I never received and never will because I do not know that lady, but I would have liked to ask the lady why it was that she thought I was a kidnapper? And honestly I would have appreciated an apology, because in all actuality what are you teaching your young children; that all black people are kidnappers??? That is totally unacceptable!



 In what ways did your observation experiences this week affect your perception of the effects of discrimination, prejudice, and/or stereotypes on people
- I noticed that most microaggressions in one way or another, all trickle back down to discrimination, prejudice, and other stereotypical traits. Realizing that we are about to go into 2014, we as a people need to let these things go and allow the world to be as it is without juding individuals, making jokes and teasing, or grouping people together because of the color of their skin. My question will always be the same until there is an answer to come from it; WHEN WILL IT ALL END????


Sue, D. Dr. (2011) Microaggressions in Everyday Life; Course Media

Perspectives on Diversity and Culture

1st Person (Mother)
Definition of Culture- Some things that are handed down from generation to generation
Definition of Diversity- A mixture of people, places, and things. Not all of one thing.


2nd Person (Monique)
Definition of Culture- Culture is a set of value and norms learned from being a member of a specific ethnic member group or groups.
Definition of Diversity- Diversity is differences in people that are physically visible or in some cases invisible.


3rd Person (Rashaad)
Definition of Culture- Culture is your roots, upbringing, and values
Definition of Diversity


4th Person (Andrew)
Definition of Culture- Culture is your music, fashion, experiences, and traditions shred by a group of people.
Definition of Diversity- Differences listed in the things above.


5th Person (Dad)
Definition of Culture- Culture is one's background and the environment that they grew up in.
Definition of Diversity- Correlation of different ethnicities.

6th Person (Aaron)
Definition of Culture- Mark of people's growth in society, whether it be the; clothes food, religion. Basically the way of the people from the region.
Definition of Diversity- Differences between the cultures and the uniqueness of each individual one.

Which aspects of culture and diversity that I have studied in this course are included in the answers I received—and what are some examples?

- A lot of the responses are very similar  with one another; however just worded differently. Some aspects that I've studied in the course are; religion, food, clothes, traditions, and values.

Which aspects have been omitted—and what are some examples of such omission?

- Some characteristics that weren't mentioned were; political views, education, or means of transportation,

In what ways has thinking about other people’s definitions of culture and diversity influenced my own thinking about these topics?

- Thinking about other people's definitions of culture and diversity has really broadened my own thoughts. When you hear the words culture and diversity, most times you think of the general, basic, and vague traits; however, but when you actually give it some time to think about it you find deeper meanings. Even though clothing is a form of culture I have never thought about mentioning that; even more so it's a form of art as well!

My Family CUlture

A description of the three items you would choose

- The three things that I would take is a small photo album, the Bible, and family heirloom; such as pocket watch.

How you would explain to others what each of these items means to you

- I chose these three things because they are the most significant pieces of items, that hold the most cultural meaning to me.
 * The first item is a photo album. I chose this because it shows me exactly where I came from. It also shows pictures of family members both near and far. Each picture is worth a thousand of words, and depending who you ask or show the picture to; perhaps will grant you a different story.
 * The next item is my Bible. Being that I'll be taking to a country where culture is totally different than mine, I felt the need to have my religion and (Basic instructions before leaving earth) with me. Even though I have the Word in my heart, I may be able to share it with others and or use it to do studying on my own.
 * Lastly, I will be taking one piece of family heirloom; such as a pocket watch. The pocket watch that I have is one that has been passed down from 5 generations and I look forward to having it passed down to me as well. I can only imagine the stories and facts that I would be told; had the my actual ancestor still been here with me today. Passing artifacts down from one generation to the next just shares so much cultural background information.

Your feelings if, upon arrival, you were told that you could only keep one personal item and have to give up the other two items you brought with you

- I would feel cheated. I was told previously that I could have three special items, and upon arrival directions were changed and now I could only have one. I would also feel alone, being that these three items gave me a sense of comfort and history as to who I am. The one item I would still keep is the pictures so I knew what my whole family looks like, remembering the good times and even the bad times.

Any insights you gained about yourself, your family culture, diversity, and/or cultural differences in general, as a result of this exercise,

- Family culture and diversity within the family is very important and will always be. I can say I'm blessed to have such a interesting family, that practices religious beliefs, in addition to cultural beliefs. It is also important to have sit downs with the older people of your family so they can tell you about the family history. The children can sit down and learn through puppet shows or singing songs. If I never knew or endured these type of things, I wouldn't know me or where I came from.



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